Vulnerability is a weakness.
The opposite is true: In reality, acknowledging vulnerability can be a teenager's greatest strength. It opens the door to genuine self-awareness and growth.
What is vulnerability exactly? Vulnerability means being open about our feelings, thoughts, and experiences, even when we might be scared of others' judgments or rejection. It's about letting people see the real us, flaws and all. This can be tough because many people think we always need to appear strong and sure. But being vulnerable is important because it helps us make stronger connections with others, understand ourselves better, and grow as individuals.
Embracing vulnerability allows for the development of resilience. Neuroscience shows that facing challenges actually strengthens the neural pathways associated with problem-solving and emotional regulation.
Research suggests that 70% of teens who adopt a mindset that values growth and vulnerability show improved mental health outcomes.
What we can do
Encourage open conversations about emotions, promote mental health education, and provide access to supportive resources. As well as offer growth mindset exercises. Through exercises -designed to reframe challenges as opportunities- you will strengthening neural connections that support resilience.
Sources:
1) Effect of Growth Mindset on Mental Health Two Years Later: The Role of Smartphone Use. Xiaoxiong Lai,1 Chang Nie,2 Shunsen Huang,1 Yajun Li,3 Tao Xin,2 Cai Zhang,2 and Yun Wang (2022). Academic Editor.
2) What Having a “Growth Mindset” Actually Means. Carol Dweck (2016). Harvard BusinessReview.
Exercise
Here are 5 strategies supporting your teenage daughter to embrace vulnerability can be a powerful
way to help her grow into a confident and authentic individual:
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01
Encourage self-reflection
Help her spend time exploring her fears and the things that hold her back from being open. Discuss what situations make her feel worried about being judged or rejected, and look into these feelings together.
02
Start with small steps
Suggest she begins by sharing small thoughts or concerns with you or
another trusted family member. This could be about anything from how her day went to choices she's making, like what she prefers to eat or wear.
03
Teach self-compassion
Remind her that it's okay to feel vulnerable and that it's a sign of bravery, not weakness. Encourage her to be gentle with herself when stepping out of her comfort zone.
04
Help set boundaries
Guide her in understanding that being open doesn't mean she has to share everything with everyone. Ask her with whom she feels safe so she can express her feelings and thoughts freely.
05
Active Listening
Show her how important it is to listen to others without judgment. When
she talks, listen with full attention and empathy, showing her that her feelings are valid and respected.
06
Celebrate imperfection
Reinforce that everyone makes mistakes and that nobody has all the
answers. Teach her to embrace her imperfections and see them as opportunities for growth rather than flaws.
07
Encourage seeking feedback
Suggest she asks close friends or family members for their honest opinions: 3 things they like about her. 1 thing she perhaps can improve in the way she communicates. This can help her learn and feel more confident.
